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Can I get a ride to work?


Can I borrow 20 bucks?


Are you free to help me move this Saturday?

I’ll move some things around and I’ll be there with my moving gloves on.


Can I get a ride to work?

Jeez, I would love to but I’m not going in that direction.

Can I borrow 20 bucks?

Sorry, I never carry cash.

Are you free to help me move this Saturday?

I would but I have this thing that I cannot miss, and I have a bad back.

Have you noticed the people in your life fall into one of these two categories? It seems to be the same people asking for help, but those people are never able to help anyone else. I wonder if that is the reason that they are always in need.

I have seen these scenarios with friends, family, and coworkers.

When I served in the military, I came across many takers. These were the people that used other people to get promoted and to make their lives easier. They used the hardest workers and the kindness of others to their advantage. Many harnessed this ability into continuous promotions and success without lifting a finger to those who helped them.

I also came across some generous givers. These were people that helped you without you even asking. The moment they saw you in need they were quick to offer you their resources.

Takers seem to never have time, money, resources, or even the decency to say a simple thank you sometimes. Are Takers even aware they are constantly receiving and never giving?

I believe some people are so absorbed with their own needs that they can only focus on their own lack and truly feel they have absolutely nothing to give to anyone else.

Of course, some Takers are master manipulators and simply enjoy taking advantage of the generosity of others.

We all need help at some point in our lives. There are many people who give and receive generously. Most people leap at the opportunity to repay the kindness someone has shown them.

If you are a giver you are going to continue to give because that is who you are. If you are a taker, I hope that you are aware that you may be taking advantage of the kindness of others and take the steps to change and start giving back.

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Editor of Inspire 250 and Mystic Spirituality.

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